just to close the loop on my issue and the synology support process.
1: synology were very good in their communication and attention of the issue.
2: the issue is now worked around (not resolved).
I use ZeroTier P2P vpn. If i use the ZT client on either the synology directly, or within my opnsense firewall/gateway as a plugin, the issues i have occur. Immediately after disconnecting the vpn (on either platform) restores functionality.
Ultimately i can not use ZT now on my gateway or on my NAS and have to revert to a traditional VPN solution for remote access, until this is resolved.
There is, without a doubt, a chance to the openvswitch configuration as part of Update2. I have had the same environment running for months without issue. What is disappointing is the changelog does not detail any networking changes at all. If the changelog did detail the changes, i could accept that its a temporary (or permanent) change to my setup.
Regarding Synology, i have requested that they follow it up internally (we will see what that outcome is) however as an attempt to fix the issue, they wanted to remote control my device after uploading logs and were able to give multiple times to do the work. I dont have any issue with the way they responded to the support request. I hope that any action that they may have eventually taken, would be just as good. But i guess i will have to wait till next time i have to engage with them